- The Inner Critic
This is your relentless abuser, made up of:
- Other people’s words—often your parents’
- Thoughts you’ve generated based on your own or other people’s desires
- Comparing yourself to others, especially individuals in the media
- Comments you’ve told yourself as a consequence of traumatic interactions including betrayal and rejection.
- The Worrier
This person exists in an unstable future and world with a mindset of “what ifs.” The Worrier is driven by anxiety, which is often irrational and without foundation. Such an individual is sometimes inspired by a fear of what happened previously happening again.
- The Reactor or Troublemaker
This is the one that makes you angry, frustrated, and hurt. These causes are the result of old wounds that haven’t healed. Any event that is even remotely connected to a previous wound will set him off. This person may be triggered by words or thoughts, as well as sounds and smells.
- The Sleep Depriver
It’s often a mix of a variety of squatters, such as the inner strategist, rehasher, and ruminator, as well as the inner critic and worrier.
The inspiration of the Sleep Depriver can be:
- As a response to the silence that he despises.
- Taking charge of the errands you put off during the day
- Self-doubt, low self-esteem, uncertainty, and generalized anxiety are also signs of generalized anxiety
- Same characteristics as the inner critic and worrier mentioned above
Become a Mind Master
You can regulate your emotions in two ways:
- Technique A – Disrupt and substitute them
- Technique B – Fully eliminate them
Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.
- For the Inner Critic
Interrupt any derogatory thoughts you have about yourself (such as calling yourself names, disgracing yourself, or berating yourself).
“Stop! No!” or “Enough!” “Enough! I’m in control now” can be yelled (in your head). And, whatever pessimistic feeling you have for yourself, substitute it with an opposing or counter-thought, or an assertion that starts with the word “I am.”
For starters, instead of thinking, “I’m such a loser,” you may think, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit.” I am a perfect divine being in the course of mastering the human experience…”
- For the Worrier
You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:
- Elevated heart rate, blood pressure, or adrenaline rush
- Shallow breathing or breathlessness
- Muscle tenseness
- For the Troublemaker, Reactor or Over-Reactor
Let’s just have a look at conscious breaths.
Inhale with your nose:
- Feel the air entering your nostrils.
- Feel your lungs filling up and expanding.
- Concentrate on your stomach rising.
Exhale with your nose:
- Feel your lungs emptying.
- Concentrate on your stomach falling.
- Notice how the air leaves your nostrils.
- For the Sleep Depriver
Here’s how to take control of the mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and his cronies.
- Starting by concentrating on breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of the stomach—but that didn’t last long.
- Then devising a plan to replace uncontrollable thinking: imagine the word in while breathing in, and imagine the word out while breathing out.
These methods are highly recommended if you have problems falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind!
Your mind is a skill that you can use. You have the option of allowing unwanted, unwelcome, and harmful tenants to take up residence in your mind, or you can choose desirable tenants such as peace, appreciation, mercy, love, and joy.